Forget Resilience, but show me how you transcend adversity and become a Transilient Veteran

Being a Veteran means that at some point in our lives we consented or were drafted to support and defend the Constitution of the United States. Some of us faced our adversaries abroad, while others received debilitating injuries from their fellow Service Members. Some of us have the scars, badges, and medals denoting bravery, while other bravely served but did not face combat. Regardless of how one served in the military, we all served.

A major piece of military service comes from the numerous transitions we each experience. Entering the military, Drill Sergeants or Instructors strip us down to our core and reforge us into the values of our respective service component. During our military service, we travel throughout the country and world, leaving behind old battle buddies and finding new comrades to watch our backs. Eventually, we each leave who military and transition back into civilian life. Each of these movements requires us to evaluate ourselves and our identities.

The term resilience commonly appears in news and research articles to describe a key strength of military personnel and Veterans. This is very true, we are able to bounce back during each of the transitions we face during our military service and beyond, but I feel this term is very limited when thinking about a Veteran’s greatest strength and goal for each of the transitions we process through.

Transilience, however, offers us Veterans a much better gauge to measure our accomplishments by. While this term only appears in the literature of the social sciences in a study from a nurse in the mid 1990’s about the strengths displayed by the children of alcoholics and the writings of my mentor, Ed Canda PhD, transilience offers us a critical concept to strive for. In its most literal definition, transilience is the developmental leap of transcendence. This means the biological, social, cognitive, and spiritual growth we do not just aim for, but exceed.

I break down transilience a little differently. To me, transilience is our ability to transcend resiliency and create a new life and identity for ourselves following a transition in our lives. After going blind, I tried to be resilient and return to the person, husband, and Army officer I was before being injured. This did not work. Not until I assessed and altered who I truly was deep inside and discarded the old me to become the new me, was I able to find peace and belonging in my life.

This is what I hope all Veterans aim to become, more than who you were, but evolve into who you are now but do not stop there. Keep evolving who you are with each new experience. Do not feel afraid to venture into the unknown, but boldly advance into the unknown and learn.

Families, friends, and support services do play a significant role in this process. We need you all to allow us the chance to grow and be there for when we fall. We need you to support us transcend from how you used to know us, and grow with us into our new lives together. This is not easy, but no path ever is easy. If the journey of life offered us no challenges, then we would not be having this conversation, rather we would all be the same.

On this Veterans Day, I implore each of you look at yourselves and figure out a solution to become more than who you think you are, but display just how Transilient you are.

harms way, while others served honorably without stepping into a combat zone.